For everyone in the United States, I hope your Thanksgiving was relaxing and enjoyable. I had a lovely visit with my parents who came to visit me down in San Diego.
There was an unexpected dose of tragedy added to the mix, however. When my parents returned home to Northern California, they received news that two of their dearest friends, a couple, were found missing. The couple lived in Hana, a beautiful and serene town, on the island of Maui in Hawaii. They have lived there for over twenty years and were an integral part of the small community. They were driving home after their Thanksgiving dinner at the hotel in town. They live out on a breathtakingly beautiful piece of land on the Maui coast. The only way to get to their house was via a dirt road, and they had to cross two streams to reach their house. There was a huge storm that night, and when it rains on Maui, the streams can rapidly become torrents of gushing water that carry anything in their wake out to the ocean.
The couple’s car was found washed down the river and badly damaged. The couple still has not been found. They are continuing to search for them. These people were incredibly generous, loving, beautiful people. They will most certainly be missed by all those who knew them. To add to the tragedy, their nephew had been carried out to sea in exactly the same fashion six years ago.
When I heard about this, it made me reflect on how fragile and uncertain life truly is. One minute, you are living your life in full force – with your mountain of dreams and ambitions, your never-ending to-do’s, things you want to have, do, be, and accomplish. And the next second, literally, you could be gone, no longer living in your physical body. Stories like these reveal to us that life is truly a mystery – we never know moment-to-moment what life will send our way.
Here is a question to ponder:
Are you living your life in such way that you would be okay if you were to die tomorrow?
This is not meant to be a morbid question. Quite the contrary, it is meant to be an empowering question. When you realize the precarious and fleeting nature of life, you will not take anything for granted. You will see that every breath is a gift, every heartbeat a sacred event. As you experience this, you will come to know that whichever breath turns out to be your last, you will be ready, for you will have lived your best life, and can welcome the next phase with open arms, an open heart, and an open mind. For whatever is born must die, but what we make of this birth and this death is the secret to everything.
May you recognize the sacred nature of life, and let this wisdom inform your entire existence,
Peace, Love, Beauty,
Love Your Body, Love Your Life Q&A
Continuation from Last week:
Part II: Excerpts from an interview with Sarah Maria on Love Your Body, Love Your Life.
Question: In your book Love Your Body, Love Your Life, you present the five steps for ending NBO. Can you talk about these steps?
The first step is to set an Intention. This is the first step in creating what you want in life, in creating and experiencing a body and a life that you love.
Step Two is to Identify and Detach from Negative Thoughts. This is all about becoming aware of the thoughts you think on a regular basis, discovering that they are not your own, that they were given to you from outside. Then you can employ specific tools and techniques to help you detach from these negative thoughts so that they no longer control and influence your life and your well-being.
The third step is to discover who you really are. Who you are, or what you are, is not your thoughts, and is not limited to your body/mind. Who you are is the beauty and perfection of the universe manifesting as a human being. As you discover the truth of who and what you really are, this will help you begin to automatically heal whatever problems are plaguing you.
The fourth step is to befriend your body. Most people have an adversarial relationship with their bodies. The fact of the matter is that your body is your very best friend. From the moment of conception until the moment of death, your body is constantly and ceaselessly promoting and sustaining your well-being. Your body always has your best interests in mind. All you need to do is create the best environment possible and then leave your body alone and let it do what it is designed to do, which is take care of you.
The fifth step is to live with purpose. Many people suffer from a sense of apathy and meaninglessness. People wonder why they are here; what is the purpose in life; why live at all. The fact of the matter is that your very existence is purposeful. You are here on purpose and for a purpose. As you connect with the sense of purpose, it will also you to heal, body, mind, and soul.
Question: Your approach to improving body image has a strong spiritual component. Can you talk about this?
In my experience, and in my approach, the spiritual component is really the critical component. It is what allows true healing and transformation to occur. Now when I say spiritual, I am not referring to any particular religion or belief system. When I speak of spiritual, it is really about learning to connect with yourself, with your soul, with your inner-teacher that is always available, provided only that you are able to hear it.
The easiest and best way to begin to glimpse this part of yourself, to connect with your soul or self, is through the process of meditation. Someone once said that you cannot fix a problem from the same level that you created it. You cannot fix your mind from the level of the mind. You need to step outside of your mind so that you can clearly see what is happening.
Meditation is the practice, the tool, which allows you to step outside of your mind so that your mind can begin to heal itself. Negative Body Obsession is truly a problem or a disease of the mind. It is based on delusional beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors. Meditation is what allows you to see accurately what is happening so that the mind can begin to heal itself of this affliction and delusion.
Question: Some people criticize the idea of body acceptance and loving your appearance unconditionally, because it supposedly discourages people who are overweight or obese from getting healthier. What are your thoughts?
This is a very common question and nothing could be further from the truth. We live in a culture where fear is the primary motivator. People think that if they dislike themselves, then they will be motivated to change. This is based on fear and delusion and simply serves to perpetuate suffering.
There is no greater motivator than love - none. The more love, the greater the power and ability to make whatever change you want to make in your life, whether it be getting healthier, changing jobs, improving your relationships, anything at all. Love is the one motivator that never decreases, that never wanes, because love in itself is infinite. It is inexhaustible.
Fear, on the other hand, has a very limited shelf-life. This is why people lose weight and gain it back and get caught in all sorts of cyclical patterns, like a hamster caught on a never-ending wheel. There is no freedom in fear.
Whenever you truly love someone, you want to do anything in the world to care for him or her, nurture him or her - anything at all. When you love someone completely, the only thing you care about is her well-being, her joy, her happiness, her love. Imagine a mother with her baby child. A mother who can embody and express motherly love will stop at nothing to ensure the survival and well-being of her child. Two intoxicated lovers will do anything in the world to remain together.
Love is the true force - the true power - that will allow you to create and sustain whatever changes you want in your life. Simply think it through fully and you will see. Fear is inherently weak. Love is inherently strong. True love will overpower fear any day of the week. If you want to create lasting change and transformation, love has the power to lead you wherever you want to go.
Question: What is something readers can do right now to start improving their body image?
The single most important thing you can do is to tell yourself that you are already perfect, beautiful, whole, and complete. Who you are, or rather what you are, is already beautiful and already perfect.
I know this sounds impossible if you dislike your body and are struggling with your weight. Yet this is an important and in fact essential component to healing and creating a body and a life that you love. Who you truly are in reality is not the struggle that you are currently going through. Who you ultimately are is not limited to your body and your mind.
Who you are is the source of all beauty. What you are is already perfect. As you learn to shift your identity from your body-mind and the current struggles your might be experiencing, and place it instead on the reality of your perfection, the reality of your beauty, you will begin to transform the way you view yourself, and ultimately the way you view the whole world.
This might not make any sense to you at this moment, but simply become aware of the negative thoughts beliefs and feelings you have about your body and yourself. Whenever you find yourself caught in a negative dialogue with your body, remind yourself that what you are is already perfect.
Set an intention to discover this beauty and perfection. Set an intention that you will learn to see and experience the beauty that is inside of you in this very moment. Intention is the first step – set an intention for what you want to create, for what you want to experience. Set an intention to improve your body image. This will begin a process that will carry you exactly to where you want to go.
To learn more about how to implement Sarah Maria's 5 Steps, join us for her complimentary Love Your Body, Love Your Life Companion Teleseminar. Details in our What's NEW! section.
Love Your Body, Love Your Life
Give yourself a gift this holiday season – the gift of true and lasting transformation.
To help you get maximum results from your recent purchase, I designed this class as a quick-start guide to get you moving rapidly and easily in the right direction.
Finding your way is infinitely easier with the use of a map. This tele-seminar call is designed as a roadmap for effortlessly implementing what you read in the book.
My intention is to give you a special “boost” so that the book actually begins to change your life, instead of gathering dust on the shelf, along with the other books in your “to-read” pile. (I know, because I have a large “to-read” pile myself…)
Mark Your Calendar:
The Teleclass is December 15th at 6 pm PST, 9 pm EST.
Remember – you can call in on the phone, or you can listen from anywhere in the world using the live webcast feature.
Also, I am going to be announcing a new class on the call that is starting in January. I am very excited to tell you about this upcoming class, so keep your eyes and ears peeled for more information during the call and in this e-zine!
Now that the book has been released out into the world, I am looking for new ways to connect with people and get the message of peace, love, and beauty to all those who can benefit. Toward this end, I am launching the Break Free Beauty Affiliate Program and am currently looking for partners.
The first affiliate offering will be for an upcoming tele-course starting in January. It will be titled You Were Born Beautiful – How to Experience Your Inherent Perfection.
- The course is about helping people come to see and experience the fact that they are already perfect, whole, and complete. Once you realize this, anxiety drops away, compulsion drops away, suffering drops away, and you are free to live your life with peace, love, and beauty.
- The goal is to make this course available to people who are looking for freedom, for people who are looking to experience who and what they truly are and who they can be.
So, if you have an email list, Facebook friends, and followers on Twitter who might be interested I would love to have you join me as an affiliate
After the January course, there will be ongoing courses, products, and services that
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In short, if you know people who want to learn how to love their bodies and their lives and discover the beauty and perfection that they already are, in this very moment, please go here, read all about the Break Free Beauty Affiliate Program perks, and sign up: www.BreakFreeBeauty.com/affiliates
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If my work resonates with you, please sign up and become a Break Free Beauty Affiliate and begin making a difference in the lives of the people around you.
Wellness With Rose Radio
with Rose Cole
I am being interviewed on the Wellness Radio Show this week.
The topic is: Negative Body Obsession. We'll discuss why is it a problem and the important role body image plays in health and well being.
WellnessWithRoseRadio.com is a radio program all about natural health, nutrition, and living holistically.
Our host, Rose Cole, is an International speaker, author, Certified Nutrition Coach, and founder of WellnessWithRose.com.
Show Date: Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009
Time: 12:00pm PST / 3:00pm EST.
You can tune in LIVE by clicking here on Wednesday.
Hope you can make it! Also, please pass this on to anyone who you think might be interested!
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The Root of All Healing
by Misa Hopkins
I know how painful it can be to watch someone you love hurt, and hurt for a long time. I know how it can even feel helpless sometimes, not knowing what to do, or where to turn to get some relief. Especially if you've already tried everything you can think of.
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Sarah Maria is the author of Love Your Body, Love Your Life. The book outlines her 5-step process for helping you feel great in and about your body and yourself. Her work embraces the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual, so that true and lasting healing can occur. Click here to purchase your copy and begin to love your body today. To learn more about Sarah Maria and her work, you can visit her website at www.SarahMaria.com and www.BreakFreeBeauty.com.
Sarah Maria is a body-image expert and teacher who can help you discover the beauty that you already are so that you can create a body and a life that you truly love.
She has studied with the leading experts in health, spirituality, personal development, and success, including Deepak Chopra, physician Dr. David Simon (co-founder of the Chopra Center for Well-being in Carlsbad, CA), Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, renowned Ayurvedic physician Vasant Lad, and many others. She is a lover of eastern philosophy and spiritual wisdom and passionately shares these teachings that have so transformed her own life.
Before founding Break Free Beauty, Sarah Maria received her law degree from Stanford University and her Master's in International Affairs from Columbia University in NYC. She has lived and traveled throughout Latin America, and has also visited many countries around the world. Her greatest passion is helping people discover the beauty and the greatness that resides inside so they can live from this place of grandeur, transforming themselves and the world.
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