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June 23, 2009
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Dear Friend,
I spent this past Sunday with a new friend of mine enjoying an
incredibly beautiful and sunny day in San Diego. It has been foggy here
for the last two months, so the sunshine is a welcome change! I have
been wondering if I brought the Northwest with me when I moved here from
Seattle a couple of months ago... That being said, I have not yet
mastered the appropriate sunscreen-to-skin ratio and returned home with
a bit more of a pink hue than I had bargained for...
As I am getting to know people and making friends in my new location, I
have become very aware of what I will call the "art of listening."
Simply bringing your full presence and your full awareness to someone
else can generate feelings of love, understanding, and empathy. It is a
simple practice that yields tremendous benefits for everyone involved.
This article is focused on the fact that love happens first, and
everything else follows. And the art of listening, to yourself and to
other people, can help you experience the love that is your birthright.
Please check out the new specials and book recommendations - my friends
are offering some great specials that I want to tell you about.
Oh, and two more things: I am putting the finishing touches on a great
new audio course that I have been developing, I will tell you all about
it in the next e-zine.
For those of you interested in bite-size communication - follow my
updates on Twitter: http://twitter.com/SarahMaria
With no further ado...
Peace, Love, and Beauty,
Sarah Maria
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Love Happens First, Greatness Follows
It is becoming more and more well known that happiness is not
something we achieve at some later date. Numerous studies have been
done showing that people think they will be happy when they have the
perfect relationship, make a certain amount of money, achieve a
certain level of success, or whatever it is they desire. It
has been proven, however, that these externals have very little to
do, in fact, with ongoing happiness. If you win the
lottery, for example, you might have a short-term surge in
happiness, but within a year you are back at the same level of
happiness you had before you won the lottery.
Most of us are born with a happiness set-point and external
achievements won't change it. However, there are many internal
practices, such as gratitude, that can shift this set-point.
As your happiness set-point shifts, your
external world will begin to improve to reflect your new state of
being.
Now here is the interesting thing:
Many of us play the same cognitive mind-game when it comes to love.
We think that when we achieve something, then we will be loveable.
That when we accomplish certain things, then we will receive the
love we desire. Here is what the internal dialogue might look like:
"When I make more money, then I will be attractive (i.e. loveable)."
"When I get a better job, then I will be loveable."
"When I lose weight, then I will be attractive."
"When I look younger, then I will be deserving of affection."
Here is the reality:
Love happens first. It is not contingent on doing anything, having
anything, or being anything in particular. Love is not something
that you deserve; it is not based on anything external. Love is an
attribute of your very being; it is an attribute, in fact, of the
cosmos.
The more loved a person feels, the more likely he or she is to live
a beautiful life. Love happens first, success comes second. Love
happens first, achievement comes second. Love happens first,
meaningful relationships come second. The most important thing is to
feel loved, truly loved. Then you will feel inspired to live,
inspired to love, inspired to give, inspired to be the very best
you, not because you should, not because you have to, simply because
you feel loved and want to make your life a living expression of
this love.
Picture a small baby. You don't love a baby because of its
accomplishments. I mean, really, they are usually chubby, hairless,
crying little entities that are completely helpless. They can't do
anything at all! Yet they are infinitely loveable simply because
they are, simply because they exist. The more loved, nurtured, and
adored a child feels, the greater her chance of accomplishing her
heart's desire. Love happens first.
So here is the question: How do you create this feeling of being
loved, for yourself and for others? Life is replete with examples of
not feeling loved. Maybe you suffered childhood abuse, maybe your
husband left you, maybe your wife cheated on you. Maybe your best
friend abandoned you.
But NOW is the time to feel the love that you deserve, and NOW is
the time to share this love with others. Now is the time to discover
your greatness and allow others to discover theirs.
Here is a simple technique that will yield profound results:
Practice conscious listening
Here is how it works:
When you are having a conversation with someone else, be it parent,
child, partner, friend, bring your full attention to the person and
the conversation. You will probably notice that your mind is
constantly distracted. While you are listening to him or her, you
might find yourself thinking about how you are feeling, what you
need to do, what you ate for lunch, etc. This is fine - simply bring
your awareness back to the other person. Set the intention to fully
listen to him or her. Focus on simply being in the moment. Look into
the other person's eyes and make a commitment to simply be present
and listen to what they are saying. As your mind wanders, bring it
back, again and again. In this age of multi-tasking and
frenetic-doing, simply listening is a beautiful gift of love that
you can give.
Sometimes we need to listen not to other people but to ourselves.
Many of us have a habit of ignoring our needs - whether they are
physical, emotional, or spiritual. It takes practice to learn to
listen to ourselves.
Here is a technique you can use to give yourself the gift of
listening and creating a feeling of being loved:
Find a place to sit quietly. Close your eyes and visualize someone
that you respect, admire, or love. This can be a spiritual figure, a
family member, or anyone else. It is often helpful to visualize a
wise, loving, compassionate version of yourself to play this
listening role. Visualize this person listening attentively to
everything you have to say. Check in with yourself - maybe it is
your body that needs to be listened to, maybe it is your heart,
maybe it is the part of you that is stressed out, perhaps that part
that is lonely.
Allow this being whom you have visualized to be a fully attentive,
compassionate listener, giving you the gift of full attention and
awareness. The beautiful thing about this is that you can go here
any time, anywhere. Anytime you are wanting to feel loved, nurtured,
and supported, visualize a loving being offering this unconditional
love and acceptance. Numerous studies have been done showing the
profound benefits of visualization on our psycho-physiology - this
is definitely worth imagining!
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Living a Charmed Life by Victoria Moran
There is a great new book I want to tell you about. It is called
Living a Charmed Life, by Victoria Moran. Would you like to feel
good in your life? This book will show you how to discover the
beautiful, the magical, and the wondrous in your everyday life. You
will learn how to see the mark of the mysterious in the mundane -
the extraordinary in the ordinary. If you order today, you'll
receive over 100 valuable bonus gifts from other noteworthy authors
and experts.
Check out this link for details:
http://www.victoriamoran.com/charmed/
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Step Up and Lead Now
A friend of mine, Max Simon, is offering an incredible complimentary teleseminar focused on helping you turn your passion into profit.
If you are interested in learning about how to turn your purpose into a profitable business enterprise, check out this call:
Click here for Thursday's FREE Teleseminar: Step Up and Lead Now
Max is the son of Dr. David Simon (whose book I told you about last week), renowned physician and co-founder of the Chopra Center for Well-being. Max spent four years teaching yoga and meditation at the Chopra Center and developing their products division. He then started his own company, and is passionate about helping people create profitable businesses from their passions. He has done it and can show you how to do it. This is definitely worth checking out. The call is this Thursday.
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Sarah Maria is a body-image expert and teacher who can help you
discover the beauty that you already are so that you can create a
body and a life that you truly love. Her first book, Love Your
Body, Love Your Life, is being published by Adams Media and
will be available for purchase in November '09. She combines ancient
spiritual wisdom with modern science and shows you, step-by-step,
how to pacify your mind, heal your heart, befriend your body, and
transform your life.
She has studied with the leading experts in health, spirituality,
personal development, and success, including Deepak Chopra,
physician Dr. David Simon (co-founder of the Chopra Center for
Well-being in Carlsbad, CA), Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, renowned
Ayurvedic physician Vasant Lad, and many others. She is a lover of
eastern philosophy and spiritual wisdom and passionately shares
these teachings that have so transformed her own life.
Before founding Break Free Beauty, Sarah Maria received her law
degree from Stanford University and her Master's in International
Affairs from Columbia University in NYC. She has lived and traveled
throughout Latin America, and has also visited many countries around
the world. Her greatest passion is helping people discover the
beauty and the greatness that resides inside so they can live from
this place of grandeur, transforming themselves and the world.
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