Is it just me, or does time seem to pass more quickly with every year? I can’t believe it is already March and here in California, we have moved the clocks forward for Daylight Savings Time!
What is new this spring in your life? There are some exciting developments in my own life. After two and a half months of non-stop studying, I took the California Bar Exam the last week in February. I need to wait until May to get the results, but, I must say I am glad to be done. It was a grueling, demanding, arduous process, yet I learned a lesson of great value.
We live in a culture that teaches “easier is better”. Many of us have, especially in the United States, been raised with material comfort and the idea that the more comfortable and easy life is, the better off we are.
Yet this is not always the case. Often the challenges and difficulties in our lives present the greatest opportunity for growth and maturation. Think of your own life.
- Have you grown after making it through a particularly challenging and difficult time?
- Have you noticed yourself become stronger when you learned from discomfort, instead of running away?
If you are willing, life can be a tremendous growth opportunity, full of rich transformation. Yet, like anything and everything, this growth and transformation comes at a price. That price often means passing through difficult, uncomfortable, and unpleasant times.
Are you willing to let the fire of life’s challenges grow you? If so, life will present ample opportunities for your true expansion.
Please check out this month’s article What Your Body Tells You: Objective Feedback vs. Critical Condemnation. Learn how to use your body for objective feedback, and drop the mind’s critical condemnation.
Also, please check out this month’s special (good through April). If you are ready to drop your mind’s judgment and self-criticism through developing a consistent meditation practice, for the month of April, I am offering an hour-long introductory session for $100 (a $50 discount). Take advantage of this opportunity to drop your mental nonsense and learn how to truly listen to your body.
What Your Body Tells You:
Objective Feedback vs. Critical Condemnation
Can you tell the difference between the objective feedback your body offers versus the critical condemnation of your mind?
Your body’s objective feedback can help you make lifestyle choices that promote your health and well-being, whereas the critical condemnation of your mind creates nothing but suffering.
Our bodies are incredible messengers, powerful gifts on the journey through life. We can use the constant feedback that our bodies give us to help us make changes and adaptations to promote our health. If we listen to the criticism of our minds, however, it will sabotage us. The negative mental messages can eclipse the body’s natural intelligence and feedback, which will prevent us from making the healthy choices we want to make.
The mind opines, while the body illuminates. The mind makes you mistakenly believe that your body means something about who you are as a person, your self-worth and your value. It levels judgment and criticism. It makes you believe that you are somehow not good enough, that something is wrong with you and your body.
Here are some examples to elucidate the point:
Objective Feedback vs. Critical Condemnation
- "I am holding weight in my abdomen – I can tell I have been under a lot of stress."
versus "My stomach is flabby and disgusting – I am out of shape and need to do more sit-ups."
- "I haven’t been able to exercise recently and can tell that my legs are weak."
versus "My cellulite is disgusting and I cringe when I look in the mirror."
- "I notice that when I eat sugar regularly it leads to weight gain and is addictive."
versus "Why can’t I control myself? I am so weak."
- "I can tell that my arms are becoming weak – it would be good for me to increase my upper-body strength."
versus "My arms are flabby, weak, and I don’t even want to look at them."
- "It has been too long without a haircut."
versus "My hair is flat, dull, and disgusting."
The key is to use your body for valuable, useful feedback, and to disregard the worthless messages of criticism that come from mental conditioning.
Critical condemnation is when you use your body and appearance to:
- Determine your self-worth
- Use it as a reflection of your “success” or “failure”
- Use it as a reflection of your “strength” or “weakness”
- Use it as a reflection of being “good” or “bad”
Here are three helpful steps to help you use your body’s messages for objective feedback, while dropping the mind’s critical condemnation:
- Become increasingly aware of the difference between the body’s messages and the mind’s messages
- Separate the “wheat” from the “chaff” – use the objective feedback and drop the self-judgment, criticism, and condemnation
- Make lifestyle choices based on the feedback, not the condemnation
A key tool to help you learn to differentiate between your body’s messages and your mind’s messages is meditation.
A regular meditation practice is essential to help you break free from the critical mind-chatter that can sabotage your best intentions.
If you are interested in developing a life-transforming meditation practice, book a private,
one-on-one consultation to learn how to meditate, and do it consistently at breakfreebeauty.com/coaching
. Take advantage of April's discounted rate!
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Coaching is an opportunity to work one-on-one to transform your life on every level. Whether you're struggling to overcome suffering, or simply working to take your life to the next level, coaching will gently and persistently help you move in the direction you want to go.
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Sarah Maria works with clients with any — and every — area of their life that they want to explore. Here are a few examples of areas that she has covered with clients:
- Body image
- Life / Work Balance
- Career Success
- Finding and Living your Spiritual Path
- Understanding Ayurveda to Improve Health
- Overcoming Loneliness
- Overcoming Depression
- Ending Anxiety
- Finding freedom from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or OCD
- Body Dysmorphic Disorder
Is Coaching Right For Me?
Having a coach is an incredible gift. It is like having a trusted friend and advisor by your side. It is having someone in your corner, offering you the guidance, support, encouragement, to overcome any obstacles that you face.
- How does your coaching work?
All sessions are conducted over the phone. They are 60 minutes in length. Each session begins with a brief 10-minute period of silent meditation. If you do not yet have a meditation practice, I will give you a mantra and instruction for an ongoing meditation practice. After the silent meditation, we will discuss whatever is on your mind and in your heart.
The coaching process is much less about me and much more about you. I serve as a guide to help you discover and uncover what is already within yourself.
If you are struggling with particular issues, those will come to the surface so that you can see and respond to them more clearly and appropriately. If you are looking to grow or change in particular ways, this will become apparent as well. All that is required is that you be willing to engage in the process. If you are willing to show up, look at whatever needs to be seen, feel whatever needs to be felt, and process whatever needs to be processed, then it will lead you exactly where you need to go. If you are interested in coaching, you just have to ask yourself one question: are you willing to accept what is being offered? Are you willing to transform into that which you truly already are?
- How will coaching help me?
Coaching will help you in whatever way is appropriate given your particular situation. There is no set way – no one-size fits all – no cookie-cutter approach. The reason it is called individual coaching is because it is exactly that – it is individual, customized entirely to your specific situation and unique needs. As mentioned above, if you are ready and willing to change, then coaching will help lead you from wherever you are to wherever life wants you to be.
- How do I know if coaching is right for me?
Follow your heart. This might sound cliché, but it is absolutely true. Follow your heart. If you have been reading my e-zines for a while, you have heard me talk about the heart being the seat of wisdom. The heart is the master; the mind is the servant. Often when you try to figure out what to do in your mind, you feel nothing but confusion. But even when you feel confused in every way, your heart will lead you exactly where you need to go. So simply ask yourself: do you feel called to coach with me? Do you feel pulled to connect in that way? If the answer is yes, then consider taking advantage of the Spring special and experience five sessions with me. If the answer is no, then simply go where your heart tells you. There are many teachers, many resources, many paths. The best way to find your path, your teachers, and your guides, is simply through following the wisdom of your heart that is always there, quietly waiting for you to follow it.
Still have questions?
Please feel free to email me at email@example.com
or call 510-326-9610
to find out if coaching with me is right for you.
Love Your Body, Love Your Life
by Sarah Maria
It’s time to love the skin you’re in! If all you see when you look in the mirror is cellulite, wrinkles, or worse, you’re not seeing what—and who—is really there.
A whopping 90 percent of us are dissatisfied with our bodies. These self-destructive thoughts and behaviors are ruining our lives—but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Learn how to feel good about your body—and celebrate its strength, vitality, and beauty. Complete with exercises, case studies, and testimonials, you’ll learn how to stop obsessing over food and your body and achieve permanent peace with both.
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Love Your Body Now!
with Sarah Maria
Do you love your body? Honestly, do you?
If you can't answer YES to this question, you may be suffering from Negative Body Obsession, or NBO. Negative Body Obsession will rob you of your vitality, your joy, and your love. But it doesn’t need to be that way.
Love Your Body Now! is a downloadable audio CD, complete with music and guided instruction, designed to help you break free from Negative Body Obsession and live a life that you love.
It includes 16 MP3 Tracks, full of exercises and visualizations, designed to help you love your body and love your life. Life should be a love affair – learn to live the love that you are starting today.
From the back cover of the CD:
“Living in this day and age, it is all too easy to believe that we are not good enough. We are not thin enough; we are not toned enough. We are not young enough; we are not healthy enough. We are not beautiful enough. In a culture that worships thin, young, fit, and perfect, few of us can measure up. And this fixation with that we are not extinguishes the joy and vibrancy of who we are.
But there is a way out. It is possible to love and respect your body, be at peace with your natural urges, and live without constant fear of gaining weight or growing old. If you are ready to reclaim your creativity, your vibrancy, and your passion, this CD will help you overcome Negative Body Obsession and unleash the power of your potential.”
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You will learn how to love and appreciate your body with Sarah Maria’s Love Your Body Now! CD, improve your eating habits with guided meditations lead by Holistic M.D. Malynn Utzinger, and break free from your negative body thoughts and self-talk through discovering new strategies provided by Psychologist Clare Mann.
The Break Free Beauty Introductory Package includes:
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Awakening the Feminine:
Connecting to Your Source of Power
Do Are you ready to live your Unlimited Potential?
Are you ready to realize the Greatness that you already are?
Learn how to live a mythical life! Do you feel trapped in negative beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors? Learn about ancient archetypal figures from the eastern tradition. You can harness the power of the feminine to transform your life on every level. Discover which myths and stories resonate with you, and harness their power to live with love, beauty, and grace.
Within each one of us, there is a power, a profound power, that if we allow it to flow through us, it will transform our lives in ways we never imagined possible.
In this digital audio course, I will introduce you to the notion of archetypes. You will discover that you can learn to consciously embody archetypal energy in your life. You will learn about the mythical gods and goddesses of ancient India, and discover how to invoke and embody their powers to transform your problems and challenges into opportunities.
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Sarah Maria is the author of Love Your Body, Love Your Life. The book outlines her 5-step process for helping you feel great in and about your body and yourself. Her work embraces the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual, so that true and lasting healing can occur. Click here to purchase your copy and begin to love your body today. To learn more about Sarah Maria and her work, you can visit her website at www.BreakFreeBeauty.com.
Sarah Maria is a body-image expert and teacher who can help you discover the beauty that you already are so that you can create a body and a life that you truly love.
She has studied with the leading experts in health, spirituality, personal development, and success, including Deepak Chopra, physician Dr. David Simon (co-founder of the Chopra Center for Well-being in Carlsbad, CA), Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, renowned Ayurvedic physician Vasant Lad, and many others. She is a lover of eastern philosophy and spiritual wisdom and passionately shares these teachings that have so transformed her own life.
Before founding Break Free Beauty, Sarah Maria received her law degree from Stanford University and her Master's in International Affairs from Columbia University in NYC. She has lived and traveled throughout Latin America, and has also visited many countries around the world. Her greatest passion is helping people discover the beauty and the greatness that resides inside so they can live from this place of grandeur, transforming themselves and the world.
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