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May 27, 2009
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Dear Friend,
I have recently
become aware
of an interesting phenomenon - many of us apologize all the time. It
might be an
apology where you actually say "I'm Sorry", but it might be much
more subtle.
It is a way that we silently apologize for who we are, as if we are
somehow
flawed and need to apologize for taking up space.
Now stay with me here a second. This is a subtle concept, but it has
profound
implications for your life. Let me explain. Do you:
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you probably have a
tendency to apologize without even knowing it. This week's
article is all about becoming aware of our "silent" apologies, and
taking a look at what's behind them.
Peace, Love, and Beauty,
Sarah Maria
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Stop Apologizing and Start Living
You want to make people feel good; you want to be a good person;
you want to spread love instead of hatred. You don't want to be
selfish,
or offend, or cause any trouble. You don't want to disappoint, or
let people
down. Your wonderful intentions slowly translate into habitual
apologizing.
This trait is ubiquitous when it comes to body image and weight. The
way we
relate to our bodies can become a walking apology.
Here is what the silent apology sounds like:
"I am overweight - I am sorry for taking up space."
"I need to lose weight - I am sorry I have failed."
"I need to starve myself so I don't take up too much space."
"I am sorry I ate too much or too little"
Body image is just one way that this tendency shows up - there are
many other ways as well:
It is beautiful to want to make the world a better place, to help
others feel good, to love and to offer empathy. But like anything, there can be a
downside.
Here is the key: Know when to draw your boundaries, and be willing to do it.
When you live in this state of constant apologizing it can lead to
both self-destructive behavior and allow for others to take advantage of
you.
Learn to differentiate between a healthy apology and the type of
apologizing that implies something is wrong with you, or that you are not
important. Begin to notice how you feel - does the apology make you feel better by
itself, or is the apology really saying, "Please love me and tell me I am okay and
that I can feel good about myself."
If it is the latter, know that you might need to draw some boundaries and
affirm your own lovability to yourself.
Remember, I am not talking about apologizing where you know you have
done something mean or dishonest or offensive and it is simply
appropriate to apologize. No, I am talking about the apology that comes from
believing that something is wrong with you, that you aren't deserving of the very
best that life has to offer. It is the apology that allows other people to take
advantage of you and prevents you from experiencing yourself as truly beautiful,
loveable, and worthwhile.
Trust yourself. Know you are deserving of love, abundance, and
grace. Stop apologizing; start living, and discover that you can create a
life that you love. Notice today how you apologize, and remind yourself that you can be
loving and kind while also drawing the boundaries that will keep you safe,
secure, and protected.
I always love to hear your thoughts. Please post any comments or thoughts
to my blog: www.breakfreebeauty.com/blog.
On another note, I want to let you know about a great no-cost resource:
A friend of mine, Carol Ritberger, is a medical intuitive who has her own
radio show. She has an amazing ability to read people's auras, and her gift
came from her own near-death experience. Carol has been kind enough to
endorse my work. Her radio show airs online from 10 am - 11 am PST.
Check it out at:
http://www.contacttalkradio.com/hosts/carolritberger.html
It doesn't cost a dime and can give you a new way to look at yourself and your body.
To your continued healing and success.
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Sarah Maria is a body-image expert and teacher who can help you
discover the beauty that you already are so that you can create a
body and a life that you truly love. Her first book, Love Your
Body, Love Your Life, is being published by Adams Media and
will be available for purchase in November '09. She combines ancient
spiritual wisdom with modern science and shows you, step-by-step,
how to pacify your mind, heal your heart, befriend your body, and
transform your life.
She has studied with the leading experts in health, spirituality,
personal development, and success, including Deepak Chopra,
physician Dr. David Simon (co-founder of the Chopra Center for
Well-being in Carlsbad, CA), Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, renowned
Ayurvedic physician Vasant Lad, and many others. She is a lover of
eastern philosophy and spiritual wisdom and passionately shares
these teachings that have so transformed her own life.
Before founding Break Free Beauty, Sarah Maria received her law
degree from Stanford University and her Master's in International
Affairs from Columbia University in NYC. She has lived and traveled
throughout Latin America, and has also visited many countries around
the world. Her greatest passion is helping people discover the
beauty and the greatness that resides inside so they can live from
this place of grandeur, transforming themselves and the world.
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