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September 23, 2009
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Dear Friend,
Well, all is continuing to move along quite rapidly with the book launch preparation! I am
continually getting opportunities to learn about deep spiritual truths as this process, and
my life, unfolds. This is one priceless gem of the spiritual path: no matter where we are, no
matter what happens, we can use it to grow. It is never ending. I will share one such personal
experience briefly:
Detachment is the key to freedom. Detachment is the ability to let go of anything and
everything, to let go of any attachment to anything and everything. This means even
letting go of the desire to detach! In my experience, detachment is not something that
you can necessarily “make” happen. When you think that you “should”
be detached, but you don’t really want to be detached, or don’t see the point
in detachment, it can feel impossible to do.
In my experience, detachment is the result of trust, trust in the universe to provide
exactly what is needed at that moment. Detachment – Surrender – Trust –
they are all very much intertwined. As you trust some, you surrender some. As you trust
more, you surrender more. As you trust, as you surrender, you detach. When you are willing,
the whole process gradually takes care of itself.
What made me think about detachment most recently was the following. I received a call
from the Tyra Banks show last night (Sunday night), right after I returned from Los Angeles.
They wanted to know if I would be willing to fly to New York to tape a show on body image
on Tuesday morning. I said sure. They said they would get back to me. I then received
another call Monday morning from another producer asking me the same thing. I once again
said, sure, I would be happy to help. However, it doesn’t look like they will in
fact need me because it is all very last minute and they will probably use someone local.
Which is all perfectly fine because it means I can be here writing this e-mail to you!
What was most interesting to me, however, was that I truly didn’t care one way or
the other. I was happy to go if they wanted me to participate. I was more than happy to
stay and take care of all the work I have to get done. If I went, I was detached from
any outcomes, and from everything I had to do at home. If it didn’t happen, I was
detached from any desire for it to happen. But this detachment wasn’t forced. It
was just there because I trust that all will work perfectly as it should – I
don’t need to intervene. It is also the realization that I have no control over
any of it anyway. All we can do is show up and be available, for anything and
everything that the universe sends our way.
If you are struggling with attachment, if you are unable to trust, if surrender
seems like a foreign word, no need to worry at all. No need to effort or strain.
Simply act on the trust that you do have. Simply set an intention to detach, to
surrender, to trust. Then let go of this intention, just to the best of your ability.
All you ever need to do, all you ever can do, is do the best that you are able,
given your knowledge at that time. This is all that is ever required to help you
move from where you are to where you want to be with effortless ease. No need to
worry about any of it, ever.
Check out the article below I wrote for
Intent.com on How to Pamper Yourself.
As always – post any thoughts or questions to
www.BreakFreeBeauty.com/blog.
Also, please check out the book this week – it is a fabulous new release from
the NY Times Best-selling author Peggy McColl. Also a great offer on a self-esteem
program from a colleague, as well as an amazing new resource for anyone going through
crisis.
Wishing you a most beautiful week – may you live with all peace, love, and beauty,
Sarah Maria
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Pampering Yourself: Are You Ready to Give Yourself What It Takes?
Gone are the days when self-pampering was considered overly-indulgent,
self-aggrandizing or narcissistic, right?
Well, if those days aren’t quite gone for you, hopefully they will be gone
by the time you finish reading this post. Here we go:
Many of us have been raised with what I call delusional thought patterns.
These are any thoughts
that prevent us from knowing and experiencing ourselves as the inherently beautiful, perfect,
glorious beings that we are and always have been. These are the thoughts that make us think we
shouldn’t pamper ourselves. Maybe we don’t quite deserve it; maybe we haven’t
worked hard enough. Maybe we will do it after we have finished this project; perhaps after we
take care of everyone else. Maybe then we will pamper ourselves…
Here are some of the stories you might be telling yourself:
"Pampering myself is too expensive."
"I should be working instead of playing."
"I should be taking care of the kids."
"I don’t really need whatever I think I need."
"I don’t deserve to give myself what I really want."
"I should be exercising."
"I should be doing something productive."
As if pampering, love, affection, adoration, as if any of this had anything to
do with merit! It does not. You don’t deserve to be pampered because you
have earned it any more than a baby deserves to be fed, clothed, and changed.
Consider a baby - would you ever say "Okay, I am going to feed you because you
have been a good baby." You would consider this parent to be completely deluded.
You feed a baby simply because that is what should be done when a baby is hungry.
And yet this is the way we think we should love ourselves - that love and pampering
should somehow be based on merit. We think that somehow we should only pamper
ourselves when we have done something to deserve it. Wrong! There is no deserving
of pampering - there is simply love longing to be realized. In the same way you
would feed a hungry baby, so too should you give yourself what you need and honor
the brilliance that you are. Love and pampering should be given to yourself with
unlimited abandon - joyously, endlessly.
And how do you pamper yourself? Give yourself what you need in each
moment - moment by moment.
Do you need rest? Plan for rest.
Do you need inspiration? Read the books that feed your soul.
Do you need relaxation? Get a massage.
Do you need clarity? Spend time in silence.
Do you need support? Reach out to friends and loved ones.
In each moment, life will tell you what you need. Listen. Listen and follow the guidance,
the inner-wisdom that is always at your disposal.
In every single moment, you have
everything you need to give yourself what you need in that moment.
There is nothing more important than your well-being. The better you feel the more
you can live the life you want to live. You cannot climb a summit if you are feeling
depleted - you cannot conquer your inner-demons with a fragile and exhausted mind.
The most effective people are not those who have been denied love, either by themselves
or by others. Study after study demonstrates that the healthiest, most effective
people are those who love with abandon. Deserving to be loved, pampered, and
cherished doesn’t end when we become adults.
Consider this quote from Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj, who has influenced me most
profoundly and whom you will see me quote often, since his wisdom is worth hearing
again and again and again:
"The unlimited is already perfect. You are perfect, only you don’t know it.
Learn to know yourself and you will discover wonders. All you need is already within you;
only you must approach yourself with reverence and love. Self-condemnation and
self-distrust are grievous errors. Your constant flight from pain and search for
pleasure is a sign of the love you bear yourself; all I plead with you is this: make
love of yourself perfect. Deny yourself nothing - give yourself infinity and eternity
and discover that you do not need them; you are beyond."
You are love yearning for the perfectly lovable, and you, yourself, are the perfectly
lovable that you long to experience. Give to yourself with unlimited abandon and you
will discover that what you once considered selfish turns out to be the epitome of
selflessness, for when you know yourself as love, you love everyone, unconditionally,
unboundedly, eternally.
You will discover that there never was anyone more deserving of love than you,
no one more perfect than you, and no one to love other than yourself. Perfect your
love of yourself and you will love everyone perfectly.
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Sarah Maria is a body-image expert and teacher who can help you
discover the beauty that you already are so that you can create a
body and a life that you truly love. Her first book, Love Your
Body, Love Your Life, is being published by Adams Media and
will be available for purchase in November '09. She combines ancient
spiritual wisdom with modern science and shows you, step-by-step,
how to pacify your mind, heal your heart, befriend your body, and
transform your life.
She has studied with the leading experts in health, spirituality,
personal development, and success, including Deepak Chopra,
physician Dr. David Simon (co-founder of the Chopra Center for
Well-being in Carlsbad, CA), Dr. Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, renowned
Ayurvedic physician Vasant Lad, and many others. She is a lover of
eastern philosophy and spiritual wisdom and passionately shares
these teachings that have so transformed her own life.
Before founding Break Free Beauty, Sarah Maria received her law
degree from Stanford University and her Master's in International
Affairs from Columbia University in NYC. She has lived and traveled
throughout Latin America, and has also visited many countries around
the world. Her greatest passion is helping people discover the
beauty and the greatness that resides inside so they can live from
this place of grandeur, transforming themselves and the world.
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